Honey, baby, sweetie, and the like are pet names that you probably used when you were with your ex. You probably have others that you used during more intimate times and I’m going to share with you a powerful technique that you can use when the time is right to help you to get your ex back in your loving arms again.
Although you might think that you will never have the opportunity to use such loving pet names with your ex ever again there is a very good chance that there will come a day very soon, if you play your cards right, when you will talk with your ex either over the phone or in person. Slipping “babe” or “hun” into your conversation will have a powerful psychological effect on your ex and can be a very effective tool to break down the wall that they have put up.
Everybody has a weakness to pet names and they are useful in many different areas of your life if you know how to use them effectively. At work they can be helpful in creating a bond between coworkers, if used carefully, that can build morale and cause a coworker to go above and beyond what might normally be expected. In a loving relationship using pet names is usually an important milestone and signifies a special intimacy in both partner’s lives. Everybody likes to feel special and pet names make the listener feel unique and liked… and we like people who like us. If we are special to someone that person tends to become special to us. This is out nature.
So, how can you use the familiar pet names to your benefit to get your ex back? First, there are a couple of ways that you shouldn’t use pet names so you don’t appear to be manipulative. “Over the top” pet names like “sugar lips” or “handsome” or “beautiful” should be kept in your back pocket until a later date. Attempts to use these pet names that are unique to your relationship should be avoided until you are just about back together. These do have their place and are the pet names that your ex eventually will be begging to hear when you are successful in breaking down your ex’s defenses.
The kind of pet names that you will be using are such words as “hun”, “honey”, “baby”, “babe” or if you had a nickname that you used for them, like “Kenny” or “Ken” or “Susie” for “Susan”. These pet names can be slipped into a conversation almost unnoticed and if confronted you can always either deny using them or say that it was just an old habit that’s going to be hard to break. You will want to work them into your conversation so you’re ex will be a little off guard as they are listening and comprehending what you are saying as that little arrow is shot straight into their heart. An example of this would be, “You wouldn’t believe it, Susie! I ran into Deb the other day at the grocery store and she was so huge I thought she was pregnant! Hun, you really have to call her and find out for me if she’s pregnant for me. I still don’t know. Just don’t tell her that I thought she was pregnant… please?”
The key to using pet names effectively is to slip them into your conversation so they will almost go unnoticed. Sometimes a person’s nickname can be used at the beginning of a sentence but typically you will want to use all pet names in the middle of a sentence or between two sentences. Everybody likes to hear their name, especially a nickname that is familiar and is used only by close friends and a pet name is just one step beyond that
Using pet names are a way to effectively recreate the familiarity and the connection that you and your ex shared. Their use may not immediately bring your ex running back to you but they are a small tool that you can use to break down the wall that your ex has built. Pet names are just one of many psychological tricks that you can use to help get your ex back but are, none the less, one of the more effective ones that you can use to remind your ex of happier times that you two shared together. No doubt, they will walk away from your conversation feeling something for you that they might not have felt in a while and hopefully they will want more of; Namely, the connection, intimacy and love that the two of you shared.
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