The pain and anguish of a breakup can easily be one of the most debilitating events in a person’s life. The amount of pain and loneliness that you are feeling right now is relative to the intensity and depth of love that you feel for your partner. This means that if you didn’t really care about your partner you could easily go on with your life and the breakup wouldn’t be having much of an effect upon you or your life at all right now.
Unfortunately, you do care about your partner. You love them with all your heart and right now you are feeling as if you have lost an actual piece of your own body. They were probably your best friend at one point and a daily part of your existence. But now they’re gone. It is only logical that you should want that love restored and that piece of your heart back. As strange as this is going to sound, happiness is a key factor in getting your ex back and winning their heart again for all time.
You are probably saying that you can’t be happy these days. You might be telling yourself that you will only be happy once you get your ex back. This type of thinking has to stop since it is not going to help your cause at all and if your ex sees you in this state it will only help to confirm that they probably made the right choice in leaving you. After all, who wants to be around someone that is sad and depressed all the time?
Someone that is happy, funny, positive and fun to be around will always win out in the end over someone that is sad or depressed. So, when the time comes that you bump into your ex again or when they call you on the phone, do you want to be sad and depressed or do you want to be happy and positive? You want to be happy and positive, right? Ok, let’s get you there and quick!
Fake It Til You Make It – This is an old saying but the theory is solid. Until you are truly happy inside in every way work at being happy on the outside. Lie to yourself. Tell yourself and anyone that asks you that you’re doing great and that today is going to be a great day. The future holds great things for you and, honestly, your chances of getting your ex back are a lot better than you might believe. Get in the habit of smiling again and having fun. Joke with your coworkers and get back to being that fun person that everyone has missed so much even if you have to fake it until you make it.
Put A Positive Spin On It – This is a neat little trick that you can use in any and every aspect of your life from here on out. It is a technique that is not only effective but also quite easy to implement. No matter how dire circumstances may seem at the moment it is easy to put a positive spin on things if you know how. Think of what positive things might come out of your breakup and how everything might turn out in your favor in the end.
Perhaps after a little time has passed your ex will come to realize that you really weren’t that terrible after all? Maybe once you get back together they will appreciate you a little more and treat you even better than they did before you broke up? If it wasn’t for the breakup the two of you could have gone through life taking each other for granted. Don’t you think that your ex might be missing you at times too?
Try to put a positive spin on all of this and if nothing else each day is one day closer to the day when you hold your ex in your loving arms again.
Do Things That Will Make You Happy – On a regular basis you should be doing things that will make you happy and cause you to smile and laugh. Watch a few funny movies that will make you laugh and use the healing benefits of laughter to mend your broken heart. Get out of the house and visit a local comedy club. Most clubs have a low cover charge so you will reap the benefits of getting out of the house and being entertained in a very positive way that will lift your spirits.
Money may not buy happiness but it can buy you a gift that will bring some happiness to your life even for a short period of time. Shopping can make you feel better about yourself and buying yourself a present is a nice way to reward yourself for taking this positive step towards healing your broken heart and building the foundation upon which your new relationship with your ex might stand the test of time.
Take this advice to heart and work on becoming a happier and more positive person again and you will stand a better chance of winning your ex back. With a little time spent reflecting upon these aspects of your life you will find that your life in general will be easier to live until that day comes when you and your partner are together again. Just remember, a happy, fun loving, positive person is more loveable than someone who is sad all the time.
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